Relationship advice

I was talking to an old friend on the phone today and I had to laugh about where we seek relationship advice. If we are single and we read a book from someone that is happily married doling out relationship advice, we say to ourselves - and our friends - "Oh, sure. She can say this because she is sitting in her house on the beach with a wonderful man bringing her coffee." If the writer is single, we say, "How would she know anything that could possibly help me, she obviously hasn't figured it out yet. Would you seek financial advice from someone that is bankrupt?"


How can anyone possibly know what I've been through? Right? Sometimes we just want to wallow in our misfortune. Other times, we can finally cut through the drama and see the wisdom in our situation. It may not have been of our choosing but we can learn and grow from our experiences. Anytime we are pushed out of our comfort zone, we evolve.


For me, writing stories has helped me see relationships more clearly. I am a visual person. When a writer helps me “see” a set of circumstances in my mind, I can hear the message. Making the same mistakes over and over is something I’d like to avoid.


I was recently thrown from a relationship. It’s hard to admit because then you open yourself up to, “What did I do wrong? How could I not have seen this? Why couldn’t he tell me the truth? What did she give him that I could not?” It is so appropriate that Adele is a super star, catapulted there by a bad relationship break up. That man made her a multi millionaire. What can I learn from this situation? How can I grow?


This set of circumstances inspired my horse/relationship stories. Many of us keep a clear head in with our work, our children, our pets but when it comes to intimate relationships – it’s all out the window. I’d love to hear from others, in order to share what we have learned. It doesn’t matter if we have manifested that prefect partnership or if we are still seeking. Join me.